The Supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.
Enemy = anger, regret, jealousy, deceit, conceit, expectations, pain and guilt. Fighting these or seeking an answer to these is
silly futile. Subduing these is done by growing through them without scars. That requires humility and courage to accept and to move on without keeping scores. Don’t own the problem behind the [enemy], just be around as a witness. The [enemy] has as much power as we give it.
How to implement this? Watch your thoughts, and focus. §
Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.